TV programmes like The Undateables have got people talking about relationships, lots of people think that someone with a learning disability shouldn’t have a relationship. Some people also think that people with a learning disability should only be in a relationship with each other. I think this is really wrong.

I’ve always been honest about my learning disability. I have dated people who haven’t had a disability before and I have also dated people who have had a disability. I once went on a speed dating night - although I thought it was just a social at first! It wasn’t until I was given a sheet of paper with tick boxes that I realised it wasn’t just a club night.

It was quite a laugh and I ended up meeting loads of different women from different places. I even met a woman from America who said she lived in a mansion. I asked if I could visit and she said, “my husband wouldn’t be too happy!” She’d just come along for a laugh, a bit like me.

Eight years ago, I met Sandy when I went to the pub for a drink with my friend. I have a learning disability and Sandy doesn’t. We are now engaged and are going to get married in a couple of years.

Sandy and I have been watching the The Undateables. We really like it because it’s different to anything we’ve seen before. I think it is great because it shows that people who have a disability and who aren’t always confident can go out and meet people and have fun and be happy. People like my friend, who is really shy about his disability.

He didn’t always tell the women he was dating that he had autism because he was embarrassed, so they didn’t understand why he was being a bit different. He would fall for someone really quickly and wouldn’t leave them alone. If they didn’t feel the same, he wouldn’t understand why and he would keep chasing after them. If the women he dated knew he had autism, they might understand more.

I think dating is the same if you have a learning disability or not. Everyone feels excited, nervous and all the rest. But everyone is also different and has their different quirks. It’s great for the public to see people with different disabilities and conditions dating on The Undateables. It’s real. It’s everyday life.

I think the programme is really funny. Lots of people think it is wrong to laugh, but I’m laughing along with the people on the programme – I’m not laughing at them. If my speed dating night was on TV, I would expect everyone to be laughing. It was like an episode of Only Fools and Horses!  

I wish there were more people with disabilities in relationships on TV and in films. It helps people with disabilities and the public see that you can have a good relationship if you have a disability.

There is a new film out at the moment about Professor Stephen Hawking. He has motor neuron disease and is happily married. My dad had motor neuron disease late in his life, so I know how hard it is when someone you love has it. The more people with disabilities we see in relationships on TV the better. 

I wish there were more people with disabilities in relationships on TV and in films. It helps people with disabilities and the public see that you can have a good relationship if you have a disability.

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