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I really need some advice, I have tried to gain advice from probably to many websites and now feel more confused and also concerned. Our son was pre term and born at 30 weeks, we were given a diagnosis of slight physical Dyspraxia. Over time he has learnt to catch, run in a straight line and last year at 15 managed to ride a bike for the first time he has also nearly learnt to swim. But we have some real concerns, as a small child he never played, never created games. He has always struggled with his peers finding adults easier to converse with. Over the last 18 months his obsessive behavior is a lot more noticeable, he struggles in a one to one conversation. But of the issues the biggest is his understanding of himself, he recently had a episode where he 'could not take anymore!' He has said up he does not understand his peers, he does not understand why he is 'odd' and he needs me to help him. I do not know what to do, as his mum I feel as if I have let him down so much but I do not know what to do or who to approach for help. I do not want him 'labelled' and I am concerned that with his exams round the corner the preasure will be too much although he excels at Maths and ICT his organisation skills are not good. So sorry this is so long, but I really need some good advice, do I approach the school or GP and should I voice my concerns directly with my son, with do have a very good relationship and all I want is for him to at last have an easier time. Many thanks
As a mother of a child with Aspergers, I would advise you talk to both your GP and the school. I too struggled with the idea of a label but you need that label if you are to get your son the help he needs. I would talk to people who can help before discussing this with your son. You don't say what sort of school your son attends or what sort of help he has had up to now. There are some fantastic people out there who can help him understand and accept who he is.
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