I have been advised to post here by someone on the Mencap helpline and I hope very much that you do not mind me coming on to your site.  I am not a parent of a learning disabled child but I need advice from those of you who are.

I work for a charity called the Donor Conception Network www.dcnetwork.org.  We support families who have, or are thinking about, having a child using donated eggs, sperm or embryos.  We believe that it is important for the well-being of the whole family if children are told about their conception, in ways that are appropriate to their developmental stage, from a very early age.

This is a hypothetical question as we are not in touch at the moment with any donor conception families with a child with learning disabilities, BUT we would like to know if such a child should have profound learning disabilities, would it be appropriate to try to convey to them that one of their parents was not genetically related.  I have no experience in this area but I don't think I'm talking about DS or mild learning difficulties or disability.   Would it be patronising to a child/young person/adult with profound disability not to try to convey this information?  Do you think the information could cause confusion or upset?

I would be most grateful for your guidance.

Olivia

One wonders how to live on $842.00 per mth and not even mid month only .28cents after trnyig for months with my case worker giving false info I finally found out by taking my dental card to an oral surgeon's office that I am covered to have a tooh extraction for a root canal gone bad which was done years ago and the college of physicians did not find the dentist wrong at the time I'm paying back a debt I know nothing about first an annoynmous person wrote to the Halton region that I worked in regions Durham Peel and Halton and move on collecting monies of course there was no merit to this lie my neighbours who I believe really did do the bad deed because their story broke in the oakville beaver that the man committed fraud $100,000 and the wife $5,000 both on disability he used fictituous names and collected disabilitylied about his income on his housing application this same man threatened me in winter that he would bury me in the snow slandered mygood name with inuendos in the complex KARMA yes I've since called ODSP to let them know that if the only way to get an audit done on my file by filing a law suit against the gov't then this is what I will do I move heaven and earth to prove my innoncence Years ago I was told by a detective to go to the peel police or else he'll come get me this same ridiculous debt have been on my file for years the only t o get rid of it is to sue I'll be using my NBA cheque for this I've also filed with the HumanRights because Halton claimed that I am overhoused after 12 years my son is married and gone I've had to go into counselling in spite of a 27 year wait for housing I am still being harassed What about those who cheated the system and made it bad for others who has legitimate disabilities That couple still lives next door and the tax payers dollars will pay for his Lawyer on the 27th call this justice I think not This is great for venting and to put pressure on the powers that be I write to all Ministers and eventually they do reply including the Premier I will not stop until I get some form of justice my family have all worked hard in this country and the new immigrants are treated better than us I will speak out Nardia