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My daughter has learning disabilites and has lots of problems at school, the last time she was diagnosed i was told she should have been statemented at school years ago!
Since then, i have had a real battle with the school to get her statemented and especially with the head of her senco who has taken it upon herself to turn really nasty! She was referred again to an Educational Phsycologist and wouldnt let me fill in the form voicing my concerns about my daughter, was just told to sign it and that this senco woman would fill it in herself!
I had to end up writing everything down at home and take it with me to the meeting so i could make sure they know of my concerns!
At the meeting the EP basically had a right go at me saying that people shouldnt say people have a "learning disability" and that anyone doing that are being very "unhelpful" he even went on to say that whoever had diagnosed my daughter was very wrong in doing so! So basically he thinks nobody should have one!
I just cant believe he said that! to be honest, since the diagnosis, my daughter has felt better knowing that there is a reason for her behavior problems and that she has always thought of herself as "odd" or "strange" so how on earth is her getting diagnosed being unhelpful!
I recieved his report yesterday and now there is no way i can possibly get her statemented, he spent no more than 20 minutes with my daughter and he thinks she has dispraxia but he thinks she doesnt need statementing. Although she has made a bit of progress she still needs a hell of a lot of help and now she is starting secondry school in september she is not going to get the help she needs! I just know its going to be a nightmare for me but the school are so unhelpful its a joke to be honest!!
Its scary that there are so called proffessionals that are like that!
How old is your DD? I am currently fighting for a DX for my DD aged 9. I am constantly amazed at how so called "professionals" write us off as neurotic or attention seeking. It seems to me that parents with daughters are generally dismissed as girls are "not supposed" to have learning disabilities, yet their needs are no less than boys (my son has been DX with ASD for years)
Feel free to PM me if you need an ear :)
Thanks for your support,
I think half the problem is with my daughter is that because she isnt much trouble at school they arent taking her needs seriously!
She has a lot of social problems and it makes her very vulnerable, because she is starting secondrey school this year i am so worried how she is going to cope and how other children are going to take advantage of her as she doesnt really understand body language or if someone is being nasty or sarcastic!
The woman i am having trouble with in senco rarely sees my daughter so i cant understand how she can judge?
I am so frustrated and feel low about the whole situation to be honest, i have been fighting for her to get the help she deserves for the past 10 years and i just cant see it getting any easier :(
p.s. dont know how to send personal messages, am new here, sorry x
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